BRINGING PEACE TO A FEARFUL MIND
In the current economic climate with 2.2 million people now unemployed and many thousands having been made redundant so far this year alone, it is no wonder there is a state of fear and apprehension in the world today. Whilst acknowledging how serious the job market and financial crisis is - and many people are truly suffering from the fallout of loss of income AND damaged self esteem - there are some practical things we can do to help ourselves in times of chronic stress and distress.
The practice of regular meditation is a life-enhancing tool. Once the discipline and technique has been learned (it doesn't take longer than a few weeks if you apply yourself to the practice), many people report how they handle life better (whatever happens including the curve-ball of things like redundancy). How stressful situations (family life, commuting etc) seem to bother them less, how challenging people and frustrations (colleagues and deadlines etc) wash over them more easily than they did before taking up meditation.
Why is this? Well normally our thoughts go round and round inside our heads like a nagging voice which dominates our minds and our senses. In turn this prevents us from ultimately finding solutions to problems and gaining much needed perspective and clarity of thought with which to deal with whatever issue we are facing. The incessant 'noise' created by the 'monkey mind' magnifies the issue and this then tends to become, to our mind, the reality. Fearful thinking can literally immobilise us making us feel stuck, scared, lost and frightened.
Meditation provides a way forward and I am a staunch advocate of 30 minutes a day of Meditation. It is best if you can start your day by meditating first thing in the morning before the household wakes up, but I am aware that this is not possible for everyone and it is for the individual to find the time of day which works best for them. Meditation can be done virtually anywhere: in the garden, in your bedroom, the bathroom, in the office, even in the park or on a train. The pre-requisite is that you should be comfortable. Sitting upright is preferred, with your feet flat on the floor and your arms and legs uncrossed.
We, as human beings, tend to over analyse almost any situation and anything that happens in our lives, looking for and more often than not finding reasons to be fearful.
'Fear' comes in as an 'indicator' to protect us. Isn't it odd then that it is fear we are trying to banish? Meditation does just that, it banishes unnecessary fear and heightens our intuition - it is this intuition that we must then learn to trust and rely on rather than the fear. Is this not a much more comfortable way of being? Of course, if something terrible happens such as witnessing a crash then you would be entitled to feel frightened. Yet feeling full of fear is not a healthy state - it is not good for your physical health or your relationships.
What we are doing by meditating is tapping into the quiet which we all in fact have buried deep inside us. Our busy minds and frenetic thoughts can be quietened down. Our bodies can learn the art of true relaxation and our whole being can enjoy the benefits the deep, soul-quietening which meditation affords us. Studies show that those who regularly meditate tend to get ill less often, enjoy a more balanced life and have less mental/emotional imbalances.
Meditation, as I have said, heightens intuition and our intuition is actually soul knowledge and memory. We are all part physical and part spiritual beings. Meditation helps us marry up those two elements of ourselves making us 'whole'. We are then able to fire on all cylinders when dealing with whatever life throws at us.
Being a spiritual person isn't aligned or contrary to any particular religion. It is merely tapping in to a 'given' part of ourselves. Being tuned into ourselves spiritually is becoming more important in today's world than it has ever been in order to keep us balanced and grounded.
From a parenting perspective it is important that we teach our children to understand about fear and intuition so that they can grow up better equipped to handle their physical and emotional reactions to fear-inducing situations. We are role models for our children. They mimic their parents, so the more grounded, quietened and measured we are in our behaviour and reactions to different situations and issues, the better for them and in fact for everyone.
Sonia Wynn-Jones is an Intuitive Counsellor and Meditation Teacher.
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Copyright: Sonia Wynn-Jones and Sue Blake 2009